guy being harsh

[harleybub]

in our friendship group at school there are 3 lads, all of who i get on really well with. they all like to insult me, annoy me verbally and physically (as in poking/nudging/pushing about and whatever, not anything violent lol) and generally make fun of me, but tbh i dont mind. i dont get offended easily and im not the sort of person to be petty about stuff so i just take it, laugh along and give it as good as i get.

2 of the lads, while they can be annoying, they can be just as lovely. we can have a good laugh which isnt just at my expense haha, theyre always here for me and if they ever think theyve upset me theyll stop and apologise. like brothers tbh.

but the 3rd lad is not like that at all! he seems to just constantly insult me.. its just a constant stream of mickey taking. i dont think hes ever really said anything remotely nice to me lol. he knows i dont get offended and i do sorta insult him back but he is a lot worse to me then i am to him. however it does only seem to be when we're with everyone else. when its just us two its one of two things: either REALLY awkward conversation, or a good chat about something we have in common. also ive noticed while the other two lads will poke and nudge me and whatever, he doesnt-besides the occasional shove haha.

i dont get the impression he dislikes me or means any of the stuff he says horribly - altho a few things have made me think twice, the people who he does dislike for sure he shows it, plus if he ever organises something with a group of us he still invites me whereas he doesn't invite people he dislikes.

i dont mind normally but the other day it got really annoying. all day i got a constant stream of put downs, disagreeing with me, saying im this and that and whatever. he also said something not too nice about me and another friend. she got offended and i didnt, which he predicted, but it just sorta added to the annoyance. i think he noticed i got kinda annoyed though, and genuinely apologised for it and said it was just a joke and he didnt mean it.

it just got me thinking though, why is he such a nob? he doesnt seem to do it to anyone else. not as badly as to me anyway. and i do still count him as a friend cuz he makes me laugh a lot, and we have a lot in common & can sometimes have quite civil conversations-for a while anyway, it usually turns into him disagreeing with me over something lol. was just wondering if theres any reason hes like this or if hes just a general prick.

if its any help, i am 17 and female. thanks for any replies!

[Shafer]

if its any help, i am 17 and female. thanks for any replies!

Alright, first of all, most guys that attend a public school act like this, along with some girls. It sounds like to me he's just a prick, and just does it for the fun. I wouldn't take it seriously, but also, I wouldn't allow you friends to mess with you, and stuff. Just tell them to lay off a little bit, and treat you like a friend, not just someone they can insult.

[-=RUSD=-Trei]

'most guys' being the key word. Most people you want to hang around with are probably nobs. Did you think to try hanging out with other people? I mean find the right group and it will be so much better than sitting there getting insulted all the time, Unless of course you like that sort of thing, In wich case I have no sympathy.

Really if your just wondering why he's such a nob, its true, teenage boys nowadays are completely fake and they try to act cool by insulting everyone, And if they like a girl they get nastier!!!

But its a fact that most teenage girls nowadays love the abuse, Or they just think "its worth it." Trust me I've know many people (Some not even teenagers) who go around taking a shitload of abuse and for why? Because they figure "It will change."

Probably not what your asking, I kinda skipped some parts.

If you WANt him to quit bein such a nob go up to him and smack him upside the head and say "STOP BEING SUCH A NOB YOU WANKA" And all will be forgivin.